You had a plan that came complete with expectations and then by the very nature of relationships you had to put the ball in someone else’s court and they didn’t hit it back, leaving you standing like a lemon with your tennis racket ready to play but no ball.How long can you stand there before feeling foolish?What I uncovered were some harsh realities about online dating that no one ever talks about.After the jump, some things you might not have known… Most of the member profiles you’ll find are inactive.A few years ago, OKCupid calculated that 96.25% of e Harmony’s profiles are inactive, using numbers provided by e Harmony themselves.Match was only marginally better, coming in at 93.1% inactive.
You could therefore also say you are now one step closer to finding your perfect partner. Perhaps Al Pacino said it best when he voiced “I don’t think actors should ever expect to get a role, because the disappointment is too great. An audition’s an opportunity to have an audience.” Online dating with sites such as e Harmony have opened up the amount of choice available allowing us to dip our toe in a vast dating pool.So here are some of the most obvious online dating "flags" I suggest you use to steer clear of players and time-wasters: 1. Beware if he sends you a "wink" or a "smile" instead of a properly written e-mail.I guarantee that the man who will ultimately want to marry you will not send you a "wink." Please don't be fooled into thinking he's "shy" or just intimidated by your fabulousness.Instead, I had to sing sobering songs around a creepy wooden owl. This wasn't the first time I thought I had scored only to be sorely disappointed.In high school, I was told that if I took band class I'd make friends, meet boys and learn the drums.